Dogs taking part in weddings has become a trend! Just as in a Hallmark movie, they’re serving as ring puppers, flower pups and greeters, not to mention they’re bringing the aaah factor to photography.
The question is whether art (as in Hallmark movies) is imitating life or is life imitating art? I think it may be a draw. Or, make that a withdrawal. Hallmark’s Countdown to Christmas movies, which began airing before Halloween, will go on hiatus after New Year’s. But never fear, the fairy tales will continue with Winterfest, Countdown to Valentine’s, Springfest … you get the picture. It all proves that the folks behind Hallmark movies have the formula down pat.
Before Countdown to Christmas became a phenomenon, Hallmark aired holiday weepfests, the most memorable of which focused on dogs finding their forevers at Christmas time. Dogs still figure into the Countdown movies, only now they serve to comfort lonely, career-driven singles, bring them together at dog parks or coffee shops and ultimately provide the cuteness factor at the resulting weddings.
Just as most Hallmark movies seem to star Andrew Walker and Candace Cameron Bure, an adorable canine star has emerged in Gidget, a Border Terrier who is so talented that she plays both male and female roles. Her latest vehicle is the uber-romantic Marrying Mr. Darcy, which also starred some adorable King Charles Cavaliers.
To whom do we attribute the trend of including dogs in weddings (besides Hallmark)? The Millennials! For many members of this generation, dog ownership represents a rite of passage into adulthood. Millennials have even made love connections through their dogs. A dog represents their commitment to couplehood. Often referred to as fur-kids, the Millennials view their dogs as family. They want to take them everywhere – work, yappy hour, shopping, hiking, camping, grandma’s house and, yes, to their weddings.
But, as we all know – thanks to Jake the rescue dog in the Hallmark movie, A Bride for Christmas – dogs can have a mind of their own and can create havoc at a wedding. You need to negotiate this trend with your eyes wide open before you commit. Deb Erb, owner of Simply Events in Lititz agrees. “You need to take everything into consideration,” she says. “Yes, it would be fun to have your dog participate, but a dog can be unpredictable. You have to ask yourself if you can deal with the unexpected.” While Deb and her staff of coordinators haven’t been asked to plan a lot of weddings that include dogs, she estimates that each has helped with one or two such weddings. “Most involved laid-back dogs, and we had no issues,” she notes. Still, she can understand why couples would want to include their dogs. “Couples want to personalize their weddings, and including a pet can make it very special.”
What follows are some things to consider:
As much as you’d love to have your dog take part in your big day, you really need to make an honest assessment of his/her temperament. Is your dog obedient? Is your dog comfortable in crowds and around strangers? Does he/she acclimate to unfamiliar places? Does your dog interact well with kids? Is your dog food-aggressive? Territorial? Is your dog high-energy? Does your dog have good manners (who wants to have her silk dress damaged by an over-zealous dog)? If any of these questions cause you to hesitate, it might be best to forgo the idea. After all, a wedding can be stressful enough – why add to it? In Martha Stewart’s estimation, a dog should be “part of the wedding and not a distraction.”
If you want to include your dog, such an idea needs to be at the forefront of planning your wedding. If your ceremony will take place in a church and you want your dog to play a role, you will need clearance. You’ll also need to discuss the idea with your officiant. Even if your church would be open to the idea, the officiant might have his/her own policy regarding pets at weddings.
If you’re still determined, there are plenty of options for ceremony sites thanks to the array of pet-friendly barn/farm venues, B&Bs, natural spaces and even hotels that have helped to make the county a popular spot for destination weddings. But, keep in mind that while they may welcome dogs to participate in the ceremony, health and safety regulations may bar them from attending the reception. That’s probably a good thing, considering the fact that a dog indulging in human treats such as chocolate, cake and rich food could result in you taking a trip to the emergency vet instead of the Caribbean.
Share the fact that your dog will be in attendance with everyone. That includes your vendors (especially the planner and photographer), your families, members of the wedding party and your guests. Such a notification will be appreciated by those who suffer from allergies. A heads-up will allow them to take precautions or send their regrets.
Handle with Care
If you’ve decided to include your dog in your wedding, you will need to recruit someone to serve as his/her handler. Perhaps a member of your wedding party has a dog-loving friend who could fulfill that role. If you have a planner, he or she might be of help in suggesting someone. Or, check with your vet, groomer or a pet-sitting service to see if they could recommend someone.
Practice Makes Perfect!
If you’d like your dog to walk down the aisle as a member of the wedding party, it’s doubtful he/she could do it solo. A handler could perform that duty or perhaps a member of the wedding party could take the dog down the aisle. Martha Stewart recommends that a dog should practice ahead of the wedding – a quick trip down the aisle during the wedding rehearsal probably won’t be enough. You could set up a mock aisle at home and practice. If you have doubts, they could be pulled down the aisle in a wagon or on a float. If your dog is going to be the ring bearer or a flower girl, it would be a good idea to get him/her accustomed to carrying the basket that holds the ring or flowers. If your dog is treat-driven, be sure to supply the handler with plenty of treats to keep him/her moving down the aisle.
If your dog is playing a role in your wedding, he/she needs to dress for the big day. The options are mind-boggling. Check out websites such as Amazon and Etsy for ideas. However, going all out – full tuxes and gowns – might not be the best idea. Dogs who are not accustomed to wearing clothing could become fixated on removing them. Instead, keep it simple. A bow-tie that matches that of the groomsmen, a tulle tutu, a garland of flowers or perhaps a blinged-out collar would do the job (check out websites such Muttropolis, Etsy and Paco). Local shops sell those adorable harlequin collars. If you’re going the floral route, be sure to work with your designer to identify non-toxic blooms. Also, don’t forget to schedule a trip to the groomer for a nail trim, shampoo and cut.
After agonizing over the idea of having your fur-baby take part in the wedding, you’ve decided it’s just not a good idea. That doesn’t mean he/she can’t be there in spirit. Some ideas:
- Include your dog(s) in your engagement photo session, during which a photo that translates into a Save-the-Date card could be taken. Such photo sessions tend to be more low-key, take less time and require fewer people.
- Have your dog with you as you prepare for the day. Many brides (and grooms) report that such a strategy keeps them cool, calm and collected. It also makes for some adorable photos.
- If your dog can’t be part of the ceremony, he/she could be present outside the church to greet guests or at the entrance to the reception venue to invite them to sign the guest book.
- Have a handler bring your dog to the location where your wedding photos are being taken so that he/she can be included.
- You could use a dog theme for the reception. Some ideas: Invitations could include imagery of your dogs. Show ribbons could be used to designate “sit” assignments. Photos of your dog(s) could top the dinner tables. A lounge could be decorated with images of dogs. The cake topper could include a dog. Guests could be gifted with “doggie bags” that are filled with treats for themselves and/or their dogs.
It’s become customary for couples to skip the wedding favors and instead make a donation to a worthy cause. For animal lovers, that could center on their favorite local shelter, rescue or other animal-related organization.